love is watching someone die

in summer of 2008, my grandmother, who i always called "Mimi" passed away within 12 days after going in for an appointment because she was feeling under the weather, only to find out that she had an extremely aggressive form of cancer that stole her away from us in a matter of less than two weeks.

death was not kind to her. i remember seeing her in the hospital with all of those tubes and wires on her and she was more than capable of talking and had her normal "don't you dare pity me" look on and was just as funny and feisty as ever.

the next time i recall seeing Mimi was in hospice, where she could barely move, barely talk, to anyone. she struggled to get the words "i love you" out to my sister and i when we left for what i didn't realize would be the last time i would ever hear those words escape her lips, and the last time i would see her when she still had life in her eyes before the funeral home.

i thought she was going to get better, almost for the shear fact that everything happened so fast that i didn't think it would be possible for her to go away so quickly. of course i was absolutely wrong and she was gone before i knew what was happening. she passed away when i was at the girl i was dating at the times house for the weekend. my mom called me and let me know the news and i shed a few tears, but other than that i thought i was doing just fine with the loss.

i got home whenever i did and went with my mom to my grandfather (Papa's) house the next day to see him. i was sort of nervous because i didn't know if he was going to be super sad and then i wasn't going to be. but my mom and i got there and the second he opened the door instead of my little grandmother, I burst into a fit of tears like a dam that just exploded and all the water was rushing out in a fury of sadness.

i had no idea that i would react this way until i saw my Papa, and until i did NOT see my Mimi. even writing this now i have watery eyes in the middle of the student union seeing her so much.

this was the first death in the family of someone i had pretty regular contact with, and the first time i could see the whole effects of death at takes taking the air out of the very room we were sitting in. it seemed that no one had time to process this event--it all just happened so damn fast.

almost three years have gone by now since she passed away, and while my family seems to have recovered, my Papa has never been the same. he never stays late after family dinners anymore, he doesn't joke nearly as much, i always got this vibe of sadness when i am around him. sadness that can not be filled by anyone other than the women he loved so so so much.

to me, that is amazing. to see that my Papa loved Mimi so much that literally when she died, a part of Papa died to. what an amazing kind of love. i wish i knew off hand how long they were together, but i know it was a really, really long time. they never divorced, no one ever left. they were together. are together. until death did them part.

and I think that is one of the most beautiful things i have ever been able to witness in my life. death cab for cutie has a lyric from a song called "what sarah said" and it simply says: "love is watching someone die, so who's gonna watch you die"? And that is exactly what my Papa did. he was right there for Mimi. right there next to her, loving her, sleeping in the hospice room in a chair next to her bed--refusing to leave her alone. he loved her more than i have ever seen anyone love prior to that.

Mimi's death completely changed Papa. a part of him is now gone with her, never to come back until he joins her in heaven--whenever that may be.

the power of their love astounds me. it terrifies me, it gives me hope. that is what i am striving for in my life, whenever i finally marry. to have a love so real and so selfless that when my wife passes, or i pass before my wife, that a part of myself is gone along with her--because that is how much of my heart she has.

my Papa and Mimi are an absolutely amazing example of that kind of agape love. my heart breaks for him every time i see him, but it also swells with joy to know how in love they must've been--to see that they really did "become one".

my hope is that i will be so changed when that point in my life comes...to know that i really did live to love another person with everything God gave me to love them with. i am sure that he is going through absolutely immeasurable hurt, but i am also sure that the joy and love he felt for and with Mimi was and is as equally as immeasurable.

"there is no safe investment. to love at all is to be vulnerable. love anything and your heart will most certainly be wronged, and possibly broken. you want to make sure keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one--not even to an animal. warp it carefully around with hobbies and little luxuries avoid all entanglements, lock it up safe in a casket or a coffin of your selfishness. but in that casket; safe, dark, motionless, airless--it'll change. it will not be broken, it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. to love is to be vulnerable. " --the frozen ocean

Best Records of 2010

Best Records of 2010

(in no particular order)

About: In this blog, I have complied a list of my favorite records that have been released in 2010. Each title is followed by a review/quick thoughts on the record of sorts. Each band and album name have been linked to a song download, which is my favorite song off of the record. Not the whole record, just one song that I think speaks for the record the best. It's my hope that some of you check out an artist that you've never heard of and support some of this amazing music that has come to be in 2010--AND ASK FOR SOME FOR CHRISTMAS :-D

(note: the links had to be taken down because someone reported that i was 'breaking the law' with my downloads. this blog has now been taken down twice because someone said yet AGAIN that i have downloading links. USE YOUR EYES. THE DOWNLOADING LINKS ARE GONE STILL TAKING MY BLOG OFFLINE.)

Jonsi: Go

Genre: Baroque Pop/Ambient/Post-Rock

This is a late edition to this blog, but if I JUST found out about this record/artist a week ago. And if I had to pick a top 2010 record, this would have been it. I can not say enough about the beauty and just general greatness of Jonsi's "Go". If I would've known about it two weeks ago, it EASILY would've been my favorite album of 2010. Easily.

Circa Survive: Blue Sky Noise

Genre: Rock/Progressive/Ambient

When I hear that one of my favorite bands is getting sign to a major label, I always hold my breath in hopes that they don't totally destroy them (see: Anberlin, The Juliana Theory, Saosin, and The Ataris major label debut. With a sigh of relief, I can tell you that this is still the Circa Survive we have all grown to love. Anthony Green's voice sounds as strong and unique as ever, and with a major label comes some GREAT mixing of it. I feel like Green has always sounded pretty amazing, but there is a clarity to the mix of this record that their prior releases did not even come close to. This is might a perfect record though, mind you. Upon first listen I felt that the complex guitar parts that created such a different feel in their first two records aren't really hear with this one. As I started to read interviews about Blue Sky Noise, I found that what I thought was exactly true. Both guitarists went out of their way to make simpler parts to fit the new audience that they would be coming in contact to with their new found major label exposure. Regardless though, the guitars sound sound as good as ever, in particular on "Get Out", "Frozen Creek", and "The Longest Mile". Overall though, Blue Sky Noise is sure to please old Circa fans, as well as usher in a brand new line to be sucked in by Green's voice, and Crica's still uncommon (yet slightly watered down) musical structures.

S. Carey: All We Grow

Genre: Ambient/Chamber Pop/Indie Folk

Sean Carey is and was part of Justin Vernon's band Bon Iver. Enough said? Enough said. S. Carey's debut solo record All We Grow is easily in my top three favorite records of the year. I currently have a little over twenty-two days of music on my iTUNES. I listen to a lot of music. And this is (also) one of the most beautiful records I have ever had the pleasure of hearing. Ever. I feel like I could write a ten page essay review on this record, and that one paragraph is not nearly going to do All We Grow justice. But I'm going to have to try. This record is gentle. This is a record that is in love with itself, not in a conceded way, it just is. This record is in love. From the absolutely phenomenal instrumentation, to S. Carey's voice that practically is singing in the tone of a lullaby, it is just beautiful. I would go as far to say that I like this record far more than I have liked either of the Bon Iver releases. That--is how much I dig this album. The mix is crystal clear, and yet is extremely textured, in particularly with the multiple vocal parts that tend to go on at any given time during a song. I am going to stop here, but it is safe to say that you should stop by iTUNES and pick up this album, put on a pair of headphones, wait for a rainy day, and fall in love with life and music all over again.

Isles and Glaciers: The Hearts of Lonely People

Genre: Post-Hardcore/Post-Rock

Normally, I'm not a fan of super groups. At all. But this year there were two bands that are super groups that put out absolutely amazing records. The first, being Gayngs, and the second being Isles and Glaciers. And you can tell that IAG packs quite a punch, with some amazing post-hardcore/whatever-core musicians contributing to it. Namely: Craig Owens, Jonny Craig, and Vic Fuentes. 3 super unique voices singing on the same tracks = huge win. A lot of programming = huge win. This record is GREAT to listen to in the headphones, especially for this sort of record. There is a lot going on at one time, a large part of which is the amazing programming parts on the album. Although, I don't listen to a lot of Vic's actual band stuff, I do listen to basically anything Owens and Craig is on, and I have to say that this is easily the best vocal performance I've ever heard from both of them. The lyrics reach near perfection too...again, probably has to do with 3 amazing song writers writing on the same songs. Not too mention, this record was about a year on the self before it was released, which I'm sure made a lot of time for perfection to occur on it. All I can really say about this record is if you are a fan of any of the 3 voices, or just generally super, SUPER good, catchy, and slightly emotional post-hardcore, you will not be disappointed in the least by Isles and Glaciers debut record.

Stars: The Five Ghosts

Genre: Indie Pop/Rock

First, let it be known that Stars is a way underrated band. Let it be known that Stars are really, really good. On their latest record, they only get better. Compared to their last album, that I was a huge fan of, this one dabbles a bit more in the electronic side on some songs. Which takes a little getting used to, especially if you usually don't like that kind of music, but once I got over that fact, The Five Ghosts is a super solid indie pop record. Both of their voices sound just as good as their prior releases, with the male singer doing his "sing/whisper" thing and the girl with her...er, girly? Voice? Which is not a bad thing by ANY means, just pointing out that they chose to almost play it safe in that they switched up some of their music, but kept their vocal style pretty similar to their other stuff. Some of the record is really good for a cold winter day, while other parts are really good for a beautiful summer day. They use really great synth textures on some of their songs, which further drives home wether a song is for a winter or summer day.

The Graduate: Only Every Time

Genre: Indie Rock/Ambient

It took The Graduate almost over three years to come out with this record. After the label they were on kicked the can, they seemed to be totally in limbo, and all of their fans waited with held breath to see if they were going to stick it out or call it quits. Sure as your born, they stuck it out...and I am SO glad they did. This band truly has a unique sound, to the point where I can't really compare them accurately to any other band I know of. Their singer, Corey, has an amazing voice, and their guitar parts and tones and consistently candy to my ears. Their delay/ambient filled up-tempo rock songs are just so good. That's really all I can rightly say about them, because I am trying super hard to not underplay exactly how good these guys actually are...THAT'S how good they are. This is one of the few records I stayed up until midnight to grab off of iTUNES. I was too impatient to pre-order a copy and wait for it in the mail, or have it shipped to the local record store. I needed it in my hands the fastest way I knew how. The lyrics seem to revolve around Corey's relationship with his wife, which he had to constantly leave during the extremely long and strenuous writing process for this record--which, to me, is super awesome. This lyrics seem THAT much more genuine because of that...that this dude REALLY loves his lady is super awesome. As I already said, the guitar parts, along with the drum and keyboard (the bass seems to be sort of buried in the mix) are simply spot on and always super, SUPER tasteful. I could listen to their guitar tones and their guitar parts for seriously hours on end. Overall, if you like super refreshing, very listener-friendly rock and roll (yet very unique), this record is for you.

Jimmy Eat World: Invented

Genre: Alt Rock/Early Emo

Let me start off by being honest with you: I wasn't a huge advocate of JEW's last record Chase This Light. I thought it was good...but not amazing. I still can't put my finger on it, but there was something that simply didn't do it for me. Invented though, is a whole 'nother story. Invented is super great. There's not enough I can say about this record, other than saying it's simply a great, GREAT rock/early emo record. Jim's voice sounds as great as ever, and I would venture at say it's improved? Or maybe if it's not improved, there's a few songs where I feel like he switches up his singing style from previous releases- which to me, is refreshing (see: "Heart is Hard to Find", "Higher Devotion"). Although I have to say, I'm not at all a fan of the song "High Devotion", for some reason it just annoys me. I AM however, a huge fan of the production on this record. It just has this super bright/sunny sound to it. Also, I like that they continue to feature a girls voice on the record at times. It gives a really good contrast to Jim's voice.

Oceana: Clean Head [EP]

Genre: Post-Rock/Indie

Before the release of this EP, I had heard of this band in a few music circles I travel in, and I wrote them off as an "Rise Records" generic hardcore band. A week in October my friend was telling me that I should go to one of their shows, and I told him I don't think I would like them very much. Man, was I wrong. He explained to me how they totally changed their sound--and he was totally right. What started off as a hardcore band, now had totally transformed into a really sweet post-rock indie band (As Cities Burn anyone?). This EP is really, really, really good. I hold a huge soft spot in my heart for the singers voice, as it reminds me of my favorite singer Matthew Good, combined with the lead singer of As Cities Burn. The guitar and drum tones are really, really slick to. Not to mention, their drummer is super, super spot on--and even better live, if you can believe that. I hold two reservations about this record though: first, while the first track on the EP is pretty good, the rest of it blows that song out of the water. Secondly, the three songs after the first one sound like they are all 3 different parts of the same song. I almost finish they would've made them into one epic song...because they sound pretty similar, especially in the guitar progressions. Thankfully for them though, it's a really, really refreshing sounding progression so it works more or less 3 times over. If you were at all a fan of As Cities Burn's last record, you have no option but to pick this up and love it. Because it is awesome and practically like the step-child of that record.

Lazerbeak: Legend Recognize Legend

Genre: Indie/Alt/Hip-Hop

This is easily one of the freshest records of the year for me. When I was trying to figure out what to put as "genre", I honestly had no clue what I should write. Because honestly, Lazerbeak is all over the place. There's not really any rapping persae, but there are a lot of...hiphop beats? For those who don't know (or care to know?), Lazerbeak is part of the Doomtree collective, a rap group out of The Twin Cities. Usually he can be found making beats for people like Sims, Dessa, P.O.S., and all the like--I read somewhere that he has produced and recorded over 400 unique/different songs/beats? Wow. The guy is clearly a creative freight train. Anywho, this record is just that: super creative. His beats and lyrics are extremely different to the point of I can't really compare it to anything...it's all just super fresh sounding to me. The only reservation I have about Lazerbeak is his voice reminds me of the guy from Smash Mouth. If I don't think about that though, this is a really colorful and refreshing record for those who have an open mind to new sounds.

The Album Leaf: A Chorus of Storytellers

Genre: Instrumental/Ambient/Indie

I would like start this review by thanking my friend Eric MacDonald for introducing me to this band. I seriously do not know what I would listen to some times if I did not have this band to serenade my ear drums with their fantastic instrumental songs. The only gripe I have about this record, is that there is still a little singing in it. And whoever sings, is just absolutely terrible. He does not have a good voice-at all, and it just serves to detract from whatever is going on in the song. Therefore, what I have done is deleted every song that he sings on from my iTUNES library, so I don't have to bother skipping them anymore. Other than that, this is the best instrumental record I have ever heard (which I suppose isn't that many?). It creates a very, very emotional vibe with these "I'm going to cry if I hear those chords played again" chords. But I think that's amazing. For me, there are few greater feelings than that of being truly moved by music. From start to finish, aside from the songs where the dude sings on, I feel moved. I feel inspired and have this like feeling of "Everything is going to be okay" or "It's okay to fall in love, it's a beautiful thing". I know that sounds uber cheesy, but that's simply the best way I can describe this record (which might mean I'm just not very good at describing things)?

The Chariot: Long Live

Genre: Mathcore/Metalcore

The Chariot eats your favorite metal band during tea time, and then ravages any idea you had of what this latest record was going to be for dinner. This is easily one of the most furious metal records I have ever heard...that I'm pretty sure has ever come into being of recent? Long Live makes bands like Underoath, The Devil Wears Prada, even some of Norma Jean, look like they are toothless little puppy dogs. Lead singer Josh Scogin's screams are simply unbelievable, and are getting better, to the point of now you don't always have to look at his lyrics to understand what he's say. The album rips into you with "Evan Perks", and doesn't let you go until the ending chaos of "The King". This band, and this record, are very much that of the acquired taste. Because...it's all just so chaotic. Next to no structure can be found in the music, lyrics, anything. It's sort of like "Melody? What the hell is a melody?". The song "The City" though, does feature a super cool melodic moment, which gives me goosebumps very time I hear it. I think the most fantastic thing about this band and Long Live is that for as chaotic as this record sounds, the band is very much on the same page--all the music sounds very cohesively chaotic. Which is super impressive for the several different parts that are found in each song.

Kanye West: My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy

Genre: Hip-Hop

Say what you want about Kanye West's personality, but West has officially transcended main stream hip-hop as the world knows it. My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy is an absolutely phenomenal record as far as main stream hip-hop is concerned. Musically, West both produces and uses some of absolute best and freshest beats I have ever heard, which totally serves to set himself apart from other main stream hip-hop artists who think they're "the best". I don't even know how someone can begin to form that thought process after this record. I honestly don't. Lyrically, West is once again on his "A" game. Although I think one of the biggest downfalls of this record is the people he features. In particular, Pusha T. on "Runaway". I think "Runaway" is an amazing song, right up until Pusha drops a verse that almost sounds like he has absolutely nooo idea the message Kanye is trying to convey with the song--it's like he raps the TOTAL opposite of what Kanye is saying. Unlike a lot of people, I thought 808's and Heartbreak's an almost perfect album, and so I think this is a phenomenal progression. At times, I feel like Kanye is struggling with being honest about how he feels, but then realizes that he has to keep up his "street cred" so he reverts from time-to-time sounding like just another hip-hop artist (but that's like...less than 5% of the record). Honestly though, I can not give enough praise for how good this record is. If you like hip-hop, and can put the fact that Kanye--like MANY other famous people (as we seem to forget)--has a big ego, you NEED to get this record. Oh, and I think it is AWESOME that Bon Iver is featured on not one, but TWO songs "Monster" and "Lost in the World". Sooo happy for that dude, and mad props for Kanye to finding out about him too. Soooooo awesome. On a last note, I think any time Jay-Z is featured on a Kanye song, he TOTALLY also detracts from it--I think West is a faaar better rapper than Jay, and Jay's style just does NOT fit on these amazing songs.

Spring Offensive: The First of Many Dreams About Monsters [EP]

Genre: Indie/Rock/Alt

One 13 minute song can be considered an EP, right? Regardless, I found this band on an AbsolutePunk.Net Free Music Friday, where they had this song/EP listed as a free download, and it's just awesome. Spring Offensive find themselves very much in the vein of late Anathallo, with a bit more fire and passion. Oh, and you can understand the singers voice a lot better than Anathallo, which is a huge plus. This is a 3 (or 4 or 5?) part song, sown together by little sound clips in between which part. I love the lyrics a lot, because they are super poetic and just are overall really well written. I think my favorites parts of this song/EP are the first and last sections. Some very, very original stuff to come out of the UK. I can't wait to see and hear what these dudes do next.

Underoath: ø (Disambiuation)

Genre: Metalcore/Ambient

First thing first--Underoath is rarely ever the same band twice. Each of their records are a complete evolution and departure from the prior one (Brand New, 1997, among others, are bands that do that as well). If you would would put ø next to Lost in the Sound of Separation, there are times when you can't even tell it's the same band. And to address the elephant in the room: yes Aaron is gone, and he will be missed, but he is NOT missing from their new record. Between Spencer's surprisingly good singing, and Daniel Davison's in the pocket drumming, the singing and drumming of Aaron is but a fond yet distant memory. This is definitely the darkest record they have done, both lyrically and musically. Musically they seem to have started to implore more and more auxiliary percussion, which is super cool. The only reservation I have about this record, as I have had since Spencer started picking up the pen on Define the Great Line, is that it just seems (at points) lyrically weak, and recycled phrases from within this record and drawing from past albums too. I find that Spencer's strongest lyrics can be found in the slower songs on the record "Paper Lungs", and "Driftwood". Davison's drumming is spot on, as different as it is from Aaron's, it is much less complex, but it feels much more "in the pocket", and tries to flow with the song as opposed to being a highlight of it. This is turn draws much more attention to the guitar parts, but mainly to Spencer's vocals. ø succedes in evolving Underoath, and further setting them apart from their "peers". On another note, I think this record display's Chris (keyboardist) at his very best with his keyboard and programming parts.

Gayngs: Relayted

Genre: Indie Soft Rock

As much as I bash the 1980's for all the awful trends and music it produced, I can never help but be attracted to contemporary music that is reminiscent of the 80's, such as M83's record "Saturdays = Youth", and Gayngs debut record titled "Relayted". A 23 person indie music super group consisting of people such as Justin Vernon (Bon Iver), P.O.S., Michael Lewis (Andrew Bird), Dessa (Doomtree), along with 19 others I'm not hipster enough to know of. To put this record simply: it is a true tour de force of what music can be. I can not say enough how much I dig all the different people singing on this album. I think that is one major factor that keeps the whole listening experience totally fresh song after song after song, not to mention the really slick transitions the songs make from track to track. While I would consider this not a necessary "fat" mix, I feel the mix of the record lends itself to make it feel like it has a lot of depth, and the crazy amount of layering of voices is a great addition to this. Another aspect I totally love about this record is the undeniable texture it has to it. To me, it sounds much more like this was record on tape, as opposed to digital- which (I think) is absolutely great. While this is a polished record, there is just this...aesthetic to it that continues through out the entire listen. I think this can be found the most from the totally 80's guitar and drum tones that they use, along with the keyboard sounds. "Relayted" is everything that is good from the 80's put into one album, and is honestly one of the most original records I have heard in a very long time.

Lydia: Assailants

Genre: Indie/Ambient/Rock

Every year I feel like I come to write a review of a record, and utterly fail in even trying to be unbiased towards the release...because the band can simply do no wrong by me. Last year it was with Brand New's Daisy, and this year it is Lydia's latest and last record Assailants. After Mindy White quit the band, I was pretty bummed, because I loved the contrast between her and Leighton's voice. However, apparently Leighton can sing super high, because Mindy is hardly missed on this record. Lyrically those album very much sounds like a swan song...a lot of lines alluding to the end of the band, which was shortly announced before the release of this album. So that sort of makes sense. Mat Malpass's production is spot on with the bands sound, I can't tell you how happy I was they chose to work with him again (he recorded Illuminate too). Lyrically I feel like this is a bit weaker than their prior works, maybe that's because of such a strong lyrical feel trying to make a point to the listen of "Hey this is our last record, thanks so much for listen to us" sort of feel. Other than that, the ambient guitars, and Leighton's indescribable voice tie this record together to make it yet again another memorable Lydia experience.

PS yes i know this is a lot music that i think is "the best of 2010" but i totally stand by all of it. there was no possible way i could've narrowed that down to ten records. sooo much amazing music came out this year--NOT TO MENTION, i have actually BOUGHT 13/14 of these records. so thanks to The Gap for a nice job to give me the funds to actually support my favorite artists :-D and to be honest, it'll be years digging into some of these albums and to soak in the entire art. because that's how i love music to be. soo much to take away from it all.

why i don't/didn't like my time here at BGSU

My friend Abby says that I use my humor as a coping mechanism. She's exactly right. A lot of time I use my humor to create a noise (laughter) that is louder than the roar in my heart (regrets).

I regret too much. I am in a living situation, where, for all intensive purposes I live alone with three other people that are basically strangers that I couldn't have less of a connection to. With living alone, comes no community once you get home. I am left with myself, and far too often an overwhelming sense of loneliness and regret.

One of the biggest regrets that I have had to wade through these past 4 years is my choice of college. In high school, when it came time to sign up and look for a school to go to, I could not of cared less. I figured all college would be the same, so I just picked BGSU because that's where my parents went. This is one of the biggest mistakes of my entire life.

I can not explain in words how much I regret not looking at other schools, and in general, not GOING to another school. The four years I have spent at BGSU have been some of the most stressful and miserable of my entire life, and I am sure that a lot of this has to do with the fact that I don't want to be here. Albeit, I hate it here. Just when I think I find something worth while or a "reason" I picked BGSU, that reason gets it's legs kicked out and again I am left with regret.

I remember my youth minister saying that I should pray and seek wisdom about what school I should go to...which I didn't do. And yet again, regret beyond words not doing.

I am in a major that I very much enjoy (Communications), but I find myself in more lecture classes where I have to take exams, and get my ass kicked by exams, as OPPOSED TO GIVING SPEECHES. Public speaking, being a HUGE HUGE HUUUGE part of my major--and what I am most talented at, hence me choosing this as my major. So I am constantly under stress to get good grades in these lecture classes--classes that consist of 3 exams...no speeches, no papers. Just multiple choice exams. There is not a day that goes by that I don't not worry about my grades in those stupid lecture classes, and wonder why in the hell my classes are not more focused on PUBLIC SPEAKING. Hell, even paper writing would be amazing.

Now, you may be reading this thinking that I'm just lazy, and that's why I suck at exams. But I'd say you're dumb--because paper and speech writing takes just as much, if not MORE preparation then taking an exam. So clearly, it has nothing to do with laziness as much as it does sheer lack of test taking "talent".

Every time something goes wrong here at BGSU, I am reminded that I was the idiot that decided to not look at any other schools. Schools that I would probably have been a much better fit at--with the school, and with the community found at the school.

So now I am wasting/have wasted +3 years of my life, being at a school I wish I never would've went to.

I suppose you could look at this all as self fulfilling prophecy, that I say I am having a terrible time and hate this place, so I end up doing both. But the thing about it is, is I DON'T WANT TO BE MISERABLE. Who the does!? I take any chance I get to be around people I love and people I enjoy, they are my sanctuary at this place, even if that group of people is a fairly inconsistent one. I thank God though that I have met some of the people I have in school--a lot of it seemingly by chance, which makes me realize that God must know that sometimes I would much rather be hit by a bus than go to this school.

This is the last year I will be at BGSU. Hell or high water, I am getting out of here with my degree and sanity in tact. From the start of the school year I have been feeling this pressure in and around my heart that is screaming with every once of my being to "GET OUT OF HERE", before you end up anymore hurt and worse-off than you already are. Yet it seems I can't even listen to my own advice. Instead of severing ties, I find myself trying to hold on and even make one that I want to last my whole life--but I know I have to let go of before I lose my mind and I find myself with a heart that is broken and jaded beyond repair.

Everything in me wants to leave Bowling Green State University. I don't know what I will do next, but I believe that most anything will be better than the past +3 years of my life here. Because I can never figure out why I find myself hurt so much lately, and then I remember that (more than likely) I wasn't even supposed to go here in the first place. It's like I'm a character in a movie that never had a part written for me, so I am constantly trying to fit in and find where I belong--only to fail time and time and time again.

I am so...so...so thankful for the people that I have met here that have kept me together and sane when I thought I was about to lose it. Even people that I have met not at the school, but in these past four years through things I've been involved with. Namely, my friend Abby. I am almost certain that I would of not made it through this past year if I had not known her, my friend Brian, and Bevan and a few other good people that have been there for me to call and literally cry to and just pour my heart out to. I do believe that God has given me those friendships because He sees and hears my heart cry out to Him so often that I just want to get out of here.

It is the hardest thing ever for me to not imagine what my life would've looked like at another school. At a school where I was actually supposed to go and fit in at. Because I know that it was not and is not BGSU.

I just hope so much that God will eventually clear my vision enough so that when I look back on my time at BGSU I won't just see and live in my regrets, but that He will bring the few lasting friendships I have made here to the focus, and that I can just forget everything and everyone else.